We have house guests this week. Having house guests is a unique opportunity, not only to tidy things up around the house, but to see our surroundings through new eyes and to deeply appreciate the fact that we have created a truly charming, inviting, and sometimes downright creepy environment.
When we look carefully, we see items all over the house that we usually never notice. Why is there a sponge wedged into the radiator next to the kitchen sink? Why is there a dirty crumpled wash cloth on the floor between the kitchen sink and the radiator, something we have never noticed before?
A can of ant spray is prominently displayed on the bottom shelf of the open pantry. Our pantry is, apparently, Command Central for the Western Empire of the Ants, and we must be ever-vigilant. But will a house guest see the ant spray in as positive a light as we do?
I always wonder what guests think when they see food items in our refrigerator that are usually stored in cabinets or pantries. We must keep anything not canned or unused out of the pantry (see paragraph above).
The bathroom soap looks highly suspicious, as though pieces of some unknown and distasteful substance have been captured in it. The reality is that the fancy decal on the expensive soap is slowly dissolving and small pieces are migrating to other areas of the soap.
A hairbrush sits atop a pile of clean towels, next to the sink. It’s always there, within easy reach. Yet, seen through a guest’s eyes, the hairbrush can take on a meaning other than a handy personal grooming tool: “I will be using a towel that has served as a nest for a hairbrush that looks as though it has never been cleaned in all the time that the owner has been growing hair.”
The toilet seat has two tiny worn areas on it, strategically placed so that they fool even us, on occasion, into thinking they are something other than worn areas. Should we put a note on the toilet tank to alert guests that the toilet seat really is clean?
We think there may be cat hair clinging to the shower curtain.
There is cat hair all over the guest comforter. Worse, there is a cat all over the guest comforter. Even worse than that, this cat belongs to us and the cat believes the comforter belongs to her, and said houseguest is allergic to cats. We have already been informed that, when our guest attempted to relocate the cat, she started “spitting and hissing.”
We are never quite sure what, exactly, happens when someone is using the guest shower and someone else flushes a toilet or runs water in the sink. But we do know it isn’t good.
The floor lamp in the guest bedroom has never worked but looks nice and so we keep it in the corner.
There are probably more items that we aren’t even aware of but that guests will have an uncanny way of discovering. I asked Now Husband to make sure the guest bathroom was tidy and he said he did. I forgot to double-check. Our guests have gone to a museum and I just ran upstairs to look at the bathroom. Alas, as I feared, I should have double-checked before they arrived.
I will try not to fret too much. Our allergic-to-cats houseguest is most likely far too consumed with her deteriorating physical state to spend much time in judgment over her accommodations.
Travel Spirit
April 9, 2012
I’ve found one of the advantages to growing older is my diminishing up-close eyesight. I wouldn’t see half the things you’re talking about!
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 9, 2012
Oh funny, and tragically true.
speaker7
April 9, 2012
If the allergic reaction doesn’t work, you could try showing the guest episodes of A&E’s Hoarders “Yeah, that nest of rats really dwarfs the ant spray corner wedged into the garbage disposal” or “Imagine if you stayed there! They have 500 cats on that one pantry shelf.”
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 9, 2012
Listen, if I looked carefully enough into the eaves of the house, the attic space, the part of the basement that is only patially dug out, and the secret room off the basement with another strange section ajoining it, I could seriously find wildlife that has been extinct for millions of years. That would send the guests running, all right.
Angeline M
April 9, 2012
Thanks so much for a good Monday morning laugh!
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 9, 2012
You are quite welcome.
Lori DiNardi
April 9, 2012
Heh. Boy, can I relate. The details I work on before a house guest arrives are too numerous to write. Well, enjoy your guests anyway.
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 9, 2012
Thanks, Lori, and thanks for visiting Life in the Boomer Lane!
lifeinthefarcelane
April 9, 2012
oh my god brilliant and so true!
I often think to myself as a single gal living on my own – thank god I get lots of unannounced visitors .. fear of being caught out keeps me honest. And tidy 😉
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 9, 2012
Ooooh, unnanounced guests. I’m having an anxiety attack.
Audubon Ron
April 9, 2012
I don’t have this problem. I never have house guests. Before getting to the hairbrush, sponges and lamps that don’t work part, we have to get past the ugly mean nasty dogs that sleep on the welcome mat part. Nothing says welcome like a pitbull.
Another reason I often describe Ducks Mahal as a hermitage.
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 9, 2012
I dated a gentleman once who had several extremely loud and uncivilized dogs chained to the garage at night. I arrived at the gate and kept honking my horn. The gentleman, who was in the house (set w-a-y back from the entrance to the property) never heard me. But the dogs became so crazed, I thought they would rip the chains out of the garage wall. That relationship had a short life span.
Audubon Ron
April 9, 2012
Not to worry. My dogs don’t blog. 🙂
gojulesgo
April 9, 2012
Oh, god. This post made me giggle through my anxiety. (I just recently cleaned what may or may not have been peanut butter off the windowsill over the kitchen sink. Who knows how long it had been there?) I’m supposed to be having company this Saturday (someone who’s never seen the house). Did I mention we have mice? (They must like fossilized peanut butter.) Hey, maybe I could borrow your cat, like, right now? Win-win, Renee! (LOVE that picture!!)
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 9, 2012
Thanks, Jules. Yes, I didn’t even mention certain unmentionables that I am loathe to think about, let alone mention them.
Sienna (@datingseniormen)
April 9, 2012
Should the specter of house guestness ever again threaten, answer the door in your bathrobe and slippers, lower your voice to a hoarse whisper, smile wanly, place one hand over your heart and with the other offer your guest a Hilton room key.
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 9, 2012
We actually did tell one person that we would be happy to find him and his wife a hotel room.
Kathryn McCullough
April 9, 2012
God, I know how this feels. I always notice my house feels much dirtier when guests are coming. Sara and I are going to be house guests at my cousin’s in Nashville this coming weekend (attending Tori’s Very Bloggy Wedding). I will keep these things in mind. Good luck this week. May the cat hair be minimal!
Hugs,
Kathy
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 9, 2012
OH MY! Please give Tori a big hug for me! And have a blast!
Walker Thornton
April 9, 2012
My suggestion is to hand them a benadryl and rose-colored glasses as they walk in the door. And, maybe a glass of wine
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 10, 2012
I might do just that from now on.
himanshusahay23
April 9, 2012
Cracked me up!
I’ve written a piece on an awkward encounter with a scientific calculator, read it right here: http://bulletinamaelstrom.wordpress.com/2012/04/10/an-awkward-first-date-with-a-scientific-calculator/
Ciao!
cindyricksgers
April 9, 2012
Hilarious! I identify totally with this, and love how you wrote about it. Very, very funny!
TexasTrailerParkTrash
April 9, 2012
We’re currently trying to sell our house and it’s like constantly being ready for houseguests. Right now one of our cats is sleeping in my bathroom sink. I live in fear that someone will come to look at the house and find one of her ginormous hairballs yakked up on the rug. Or a scorpion will decide at that moment to crawl out of the fireplace. It’s been known to happen…
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 10, 2012
I can’t get past the image of the cat sleeping in the sink.
k8edid
April 9, 2012
I live in Florida. I have had houseguests off and on for the last few months. I haven’t had use of the guest bedroom (normally my dressing room and storage for many, many of my things) nor my office (normally used for exercising, bead studio, office and well, storage for many, many of my things). I am thinking about getting a room at the Hilton for myself and leaving these houseguests to their own devices. About the worse thing they must endure is my 90 pound Shepherd who likes to wander the house and give kisses at night. Very wet, very affectionate kisses.
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 10, 2012
I think that’s brilliant. Guests stay with us, we stay elsewhere.
Carol R Craley
April 9, 2012
Love the post! I thought I was the only person in the world who is not starring on Hoarders who has items that “magically” wound up in some strange place and took up residence long enough to be visually part of the decor until I had to put on “house guest” glasses. This was comforting… thank you.
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 10, 2012
And that’s a great way to describe it.
chlost
April 9, 2012
Oh, this makes me laugh, and the comments even more! My husband loves that we have room for guests. But every time we have guests coming, we are wild to clean, organize the junk, and repair those things that we lived with up to then. It is a good motivator. Then the guests arrive, and everything is messy, dirty and broken again within a few hours. I am ususally exhausted by the time the guests arrive, and beyond that by the time the leave. Yet, I suppose we enjoy it. Too bad my husband and I rarely agree as to what the priorities should be on the home preparation list.
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 10, 2012
This is exactly what entire cities to when the Olympics are about to arrive.
John
April 9, 2012
This is why I painted “Do Not Disturb” in dripping red paint on my front door.
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 10, 2012
I think I’m your neighbor.
morristownmemos by Ronnie Hammer
April 9, 2012
Make sure you sift through the bathroom drawers and cabinets to remove any embarrassing mementos, medicines or salves.
Ronnie
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 10, 2012
Oh my, I totally forgot about that stuff. Yes, it’s a Pandora’s box of embarrassment.
jlheuer
April 9, 2012
I always think my house looks good until I visit my friends and their houses look great. Then I go back home and I notice things like the sponges and the cat hair (we have two), the lack of molding in every room ( Hubby has been promising for 30 yrs to finish it) and fly specs on the window glass. And then I wonder if my friends have similar dirty little secrets.
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 10, 2012
The only thing that makes me feel better is the thought that everyone goes through this.
writingfeemail
April 10, 2012
I have a friend whose family loves to have visitors. They say it’s the only time the house is truly clean! Another just says, ‘excuse the mess, but we live here.’ Gotta love it.
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 10, 2012
I did have a friend who used to have “clean up parties” that preceeded big parties at her house. She actually got a handful of people to come early and clean. I have no friends like that.
Snoring Dog Studio
April 10, 2012
These are the flaws that make a house a home! I guarantee you’d find much of the same (perhaps worse) in her home. Hilarious post!
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 10, 2012
Hey thanks, and, yes, I agree!
Gayane Palian
April 10, 2012
Great post! I have been spellunking around my place since reading it! My speedo-wearing houseguest is due to arrive end of May, thankfully will have his wife w him this time. Maybe she will keep him and his habits under control! Have decided to lay down some rules: no lying on my (new) sofa in your skivvies, never mind the speedo….. It’s my only sofa, my only living space, there’s no family room, he will just have to behave……my Mom had one of those tapes of a vicious dog barking to hang on the front doorknob, you are welcome to borrow it anytime!
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 10, 2012
Ooh, I could have used the vicious dog tape when You Know Who came to visit.
pegoleg
April 10, 2012
We had a house guest for Easter – a friend of my daughter’s who I met once. I cleaned the hell out of daughter’s room, but then started noticing all the deferred (until the cows come home) maintenance all over the place: the algae/mold on the north side of the house that is too high up to get with my power washer, the grout in the tub is black and/or missing, the pocket door in the bathroom is wedged closed with a stack of magazines, etc. etc. What do people do?
Thank God I noticed the sticky note on the pantry door warning of the mouse trap on the bottom shelf. Yeah. Nice touch.
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 10, 2012
I kept thinking that for some completely bizarre reason, one of them would go into the basement, thereby unleashing a Dante’s Inferno of crickets, kitty litter stench, cat urine stench AND a George Forman grill, which we use with all the rest as background. But don’t tell anyone.
benzeknees
April 10, 2012
Unfortunately, we empty nesters get into some habits about our living spaces, don’t we? We had guests for Easter & I spent the entire week before cleaning & still found so much stuff I didn’t have a clue how it got there. C’est la vie! Mi casa es su casa, so get used to a little mess!
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 10, 2012
Agreed. Mi casa es su casa. Y no problemo!
benzeknees
April 11, 2012
My new son-in-law was born in Mexico so I’m trying to learn a little Spanish so I can communicate with his parents. Believe it or not they like to come to Canada in the winter!
Jeanne Heuer
April 10, 2012
I always think my house looks pretty good then I go to my friends houses and they look great. I come home and all I can see is the cat hair on the curtains, the lack of molding on practically all my baseboards (my hubby has promised to do those for 30 yrs) and the pile of boxes that need to be taken to the basement (for the last week).
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 11, 2012
I go through the same thing. I just tell myself that I notice my stuff more. Don’t burst my bubble.
jlheuer
April 10, 2012
I think I just sent you a duplicate message. Sorry about that. My internet has been down all day so I didn’t think any of my comments went through.
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 11, 2012
No problems. makes the numbers go up and then everyone thinks I’m clever.
nrhatch
April 10, 2012
Yes! Seeing through the eyes of guests is an eye opener . . . unless of course you’re allergic to cats and your eyes are swollen shut.
But . . . why is there a dirty crumpled wash cloth on the floor between the kitchen sink and the radiator?
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 11, 2012
Now Husband uses it to clean spills on the kitchen floor. I think it’s disgusting but I’ve noticed that I am not volunteering for the job.
Betty Londergan
April 16, 2012
I don’t care what your house looks like, you are so funny, I’d PAY to stay with you, and your snarky hairbrush, suspicious toilet seat, cat-laden quilt, and ant spray. Seriously — I would pay.
Life in the Boomer Lane
April 17, 2012
Here’s a secret (Don’t tell anybody). I want to meet you in person. I am so intrigued by you and what you are doing with your life, and, even more, I think you’d be a hoot to talk to. I tell my husband about you. So, that said, you would be my honored guest. I would even run the lint roller over the comforter for you. I have it that someday, we will actually meet face-to-face.
Rebecca Latson Photography
May 18, 2012
As usual, I laughed out loud while reading this. I’m not certain, though, if I was laughing as much at your post as I was at the state of my own humble abode. I remember coming through the front door once, not too long ago, after retrieving my crumpled mail (because our idiot postman likes to crumble everything up first and then stuff it into my postage stamp-sized mailbox). I looked at my apartment through the eyes of someone coming to visit, and once again, I was truely thankful I never have any visitors.